Over the past few weeks I've read several blogs about life, friendships, marriages etc... Some made me laugh and some made me tear up. That's the point of blogs right? For our own opinions and thoughts right? I am not here to judge anyone in their opinions but with reading several I needed to give my opinion on several things. I am not here to offend anyone these are just my thoughts an opinions.
Friendships~
This may open up a can of worms. Over the past few years I have lost several people that I considered my true friends. Over lack of communication, jealousy, false accusations etc. I mean really we are grown ups right? If there are issues with your friends why not talk about it? If you are a true friend you will discuss things. Not face book or be a coward and text. I came to the realization that those people that made it so easy to stop being my friend really were never my true friends. I recently was confronted about something that I would never had imagined a best friend would have considered but she did. This person ended up being one of the most insecure, selfish, jealous persons that I have ever met. She not only looked like a fool in the end but really showed me her true colors. To be honest I do not have time for that mess! I need people in my life that are going to support me and cheer me on. Support me and my ocd and weird way of doing things. People that are going to be true friends. I no longer NEED or WANT fake people in my life. PERIOD
Kids vs not having kids~
Ok ladies here it goes. STOP and think about it before you say " she just doesn't understand because she doesn't have kids" Lets see... DUH Big red truck. I don't have kids but that is of no choice of my own. Do I get to do things that my friends with kids can't. Sure but that doesn't mean that I don't know what its like. I would love to know what its like to get up in the middle of the night with kids, to have to clean up throw up , to not take a shower for days from being so busy. That being said does that give you the right to throw that in peoples face? NO... Get organized, ask for help, take us non children people up when they want to help you with your kids or your house. Its not hand outs its called being a friend and wanting to help out. No one MADE you have child. Its your choice. If you want to go out get a sitter, save money and pay one or ask friends or grandparents. Have an adult night and get out. Ok you don't have the money then put your child to bed early pop in a movie and just sit and watch one. The dishes and laundry can wait. Some people just assume that those of us without kids are clueless... well I have news for you I am the most open minded person and considerate person when it comes to my friends kids and wanting to always include them. I always take their financial situation in consideration before asking them to do things. If I know its been a tight week for them I usually offer to have game night and make dinner at my house. So again before people start running their trap about non-moms think before you speak. Or better yet maybe you should reconsider your friendships.
Life~
This is such a huge topic and probably do not have enough time to write about it. I just want to say a few things. One its YOUR life. You make it what it is. Does life suck sometimes? hell yeah it does. Trust me I have had the worst hand dealt to me in certain areas of my life. We have NO control over whats going to happen, but we have a choice in how you will react. Life does not have to be so bad people. Sometimes I want to scream. I want to yell and ask God WHY!! Its not for me to know. I am a control freak and I want to make sure I can control whatever I can, but I also know the God has this. That I just need to relax and realize He is the master and I just have to have faith. Stop trying to control everyone and everything. It is what it is. Life goes on rather we want it to or not. Why not make the most of it. Love hard , work hard and play harder. Remember you only get one life here on earth. I pray that when I look back I have made the most of life.
Marriage~
Lets be real people.... marriage is not all hearts and flowers. Its not always a fairy tale. Just like anything in life it takes trust, communication, love, loyalty, hard work, prayer, understanding, love and sometimes a good argument every now and then. Wait that just be Neal and I lol. I am serious people just like any relationship you have to work at it. After almost 14 years together and going on10 years of marriage I still have not and will not ever master marriage. Its had its ups and downs but we pray a lot and ask God to help us. Help us love more and think of each other more than our own self. One thing in our marriage that we are proud of is we laugh. We make each other laugh, pick and kid with each other. We do not get along all the time. A marriage that appears to be so perfect ... well lets just say " we do not know what happens behind closed doors" One thing is talk... do not hold it in. If something bothers you discuss it. You get absolutely no where with staying quite. That being said sometimes it is better to not say anything without thinking first. Neither a wife or a husband needs to be a door mat. That causes nothing but resentment. I could go on and on!!
Ok those are just a few of MY opinions... hope I do not step on any toes and remember its your life.. do what you want as long as your happy... AND remember you only answer to God and yourself...
with love
~E
Monday, August 12, 2013
Friday, May 17, 2013
A FreSH StaRT!
Well its been a while...
I have had a hard time figuring out what to write about. Since my grammar practically sucks I just kinda write whatever is on my heart. Today I wanted to explain why I changed the name of my blog. My previous blog was a blog about our journey to becoming parents. To me becoming a mother. Through my fertility struggle , cancer , hysterectomy and life in general. It was positive some and then there were some that to this day make me tear up. I was talking to my sweet friend Lesley and she mentioned that I needed a new name for my blog. A fresh name. Since things in my life have gotten a fresh start. I did not think about it much but the more I read my blog the more I realized it was true. I needed something fresh. Up beat and well like me ...NEW!
The past two years I have devoted lots of time to myself, personal life, our home, marriage and life in general. I have became a better person inside and out. After my hysterectomy I had to make some life changing decisions. For my mental and physical well being. I had to make changes in order to better myself and the life that God has given me. We all know that I started working on my health . Eating better, exercising more, and becoming a better me. Neal and I both started fresh. A new start. No turning our backs we hit the road and hit it hard.
Throughout the past year we have jumped over some hurdles. Which if you are human that's going to happen. Last April we had finally found a home that we wanted to call our forever home and we LOVED it. Little did we know the people that owned it had other plans in mind. We only lived there 6 months before they asked us to move out because they were foreclosing on their home. Which lead us to finding our home now. We LOVE this home. Funny thing is its 6 houses up from the other one and practically throwing distance to where Neal's business is. So of course God worked it all out and we have made that house a home. We are slowly making it into the home we want to be in for a while. I am not sure if it will be forever, but for right now its ours.
Still through all that we still continued on our way to healthier us! So that leads to my new fresh start for my blog. So my friend Jessica started Beach body a while back and you know me I am all about health and making good choices but I love to eat! I was like yeah I am not going to be drinking a shake as one of my meals and killing myself with home workouts. blah blah blah... She then decided to be a Beach Body Coach. Which is a fabulous program now that I am in it I know that. So I went to her house for a taste testing of this "shake" called shakeology. I didn't want to replace my food. I was so concerned with that. However we did taste testings and watched a few videos about the workouts and the shakeology. I was skeptical. I really was. I have tried other products and well... this stuff was the BOMB!! I prayed about it for a few days before making the choice to become a Beach Body Coach. The good thing about this product is the creators of shakeology are also the creators or many different workouts such as, hip hop abs, insanity, p90x etc... you just incorporate shakeology in your daily life as well as one of the programs or several if you want. Neal and I decided to do the Insanity with Shaun T... he is AMAZING!!!
It took about a week to receive my beach body coach kit along with my shakeology. Neal and I couldn't wait to start insanity! We were pumped!!! I tried ordering twice from amazon and always ended up getting my money back cause I never got them. It was something that I have wanted to do and like Shaun T says... people that usually want to end up figuring a way to. Well we got it and started our 60 day challenge . The first day was the fit test. Ummmm lets just say no matter how much weight I had lost or how many times we worked out at the gym. Nothing could prepare you for this. The fit test were 8 different exercises for a certain length of time. You had to count how many you could do and push through. Well we pretty much sucked. However by the end of the fit test we were dripping sweat and exhausted. We knew right then we had a ton of work to do. The next day we were kinda sore. We were mentally preparing our self for what Shaun T had in store for us for day 2. Well just put it this way I couldn't even get off the couch that night . I had to literally roll off the couch. We pushed through the first week. And now we are almost done with week 2. I have to say I am so proud of us. I can actually move today without grunting which is huge. Its gonna take time but the biggest thing is to push through. Focus and remember form. Form over speed. I like to be like speedy Gonzales and keep up. The fact of the matter is that I cant. I may not ever be able to keep up with the people on the screen but I am doing it. Neal and I are pushing each other and cheering each other on. That's what counts right? Neal is actually going to the gym in the morning with Jerry then doing insanity with me at night. He just might be a tad more insane than I am.
All in all we are getting stronger and I can tell. Its not only the Shakes which are fabulous. We are having to watch what we put in our mouths. My calorie intake is so much more than I am used to however my workouts are way more intense than you can imagine. It really is 60% eating and 40% workouts. I am so looking forward to results and healthier us! We have vacations, weddings, parties etc coming up but with both of us are focused on our results and how far we have came we can do this. I am so excited! Probably as excited about this as I am finishing it. However we are enjoying day by day.
Sorry about my grammar and my spelling . I was not an English major... just remember :) Until next time
~ Liz
http://beachbodycoach.com/esuite/home/Littlebit4969
I have had a hard time figuring out what to write about. Since my grammar practically sucks I just kinda write whatever is on my heart. Today I wanted to explain why I changed the name of my blog. My previous blog was a blog about our journey to becoming parents. To me becoming a mother. Through my fertility struggle , cancer , hysterectomy and life in general. It was positive some and then there were some that to this day make me tear up. I was talking to my sweet friend Lesley and she mentioned that I needed a new name for my blog. A fresh name. Since things in my life have gotten a fresh start. I did not think about it much but the more I read my blog the more I realized it was true. I needed something fresh. Up beat and well like me ...NEW!
The past two years I have devoted lots of time to myself, personal life, our home, marriage and life in general. I have became a better person inside and out. After my hysterectomy I had to make some life changing decisions. For my mental and physical well being. I had to make changes in order to better myself and the life that God has given me. We all know that I started working on my health . Eating better, exercising more, and becoming a better me. Neal and I both started fresh. A new start. No turning our backs we hit the road and hit it hard.
Throughout the past year we have jumped over some hurdles. Which if you are human that's going to happen. Last April we had finally found a home that we wanted to call our forever home and we LOVED it. Little did we know the people that owned it had other plans in mind. We only lived there 6 months before they asked us to move out because they were foreclosing on their home. Which lead us to finding our home now. We LOVE this home. Funny thing is its 6 houses up from the other one and practically throwing distance to where Neal's business is. So of course God worked it all out and we have made that house a home. We are slowly making it into the home we want to be in for a while. I am not sure if it will be forever, but for right now its ours.
Still through all that we still continued on our way to healthier us! So that leads to my new fresh start for my blog. So my friend Jessica started Beach body a while back and you know me I am all about health and making good choices but I love to eat! I was like yeah I am not going to be drinking a shake as one of my meals and killing myself with home workouts. blah blah blah... She then decided to be a Beach Body Coach. Which is a fabulous program now that I am in it I know that. So I went to her house for a taste testing of this "shake" called shakeology. I didn't want to replace my food. I was so concerned with that. However we did taste testings and watched a few videos about the workouts and the shakeology. I was skeptical. I really was. I have tried other products and well... this stuff was the BOMB!! I prayed about it for a few days before making the choice to become a Beach Body Coach. The good thing about this product is the creators of shakeology are also the creators or many different workouts such as, hip hop abs, insanity, p90x etc... you just incorporate shakeology in your daily life as well as one of the programs or several if you want. Neal and I decided to do the Insanity with Shaun T... he is AMAZING!!!
It took about a week to receive my beach body coach kit along with my shakeology. Neal and I couldn't wait to start insanity! We were pumped!!! I tried ordering twice from amazon and always ended up getting my money back cause I never got them. It was something that I have wanted to do and like Shaun T says... people that usually want to end up figuring a way to. Well we got it and started our 60 day challenge . The first day was the fit test. Ummmm lets just say no matter how much weight I had lost or how many times we worked out at the gym. Nothing could prepare you for this. The fit test were 8 different exercises for a certain length of time. You had to count how many you could do and push through. Well we pretty much sucked. However by the end of the fit test we were dripping sweat and exhausted. We knew right then we had a ton of work to do. The next day we were kinda sore. We were mentally preparing our self for what Shaun T had in store for us for day 2. Well just put it this way I couldn't even get off the couch that night . I had to literally roll off the couch. We pushed through the first week. And now we are almost done with week 2. I have to say I am so proud of us. I can actually move today without grunting which is huge. Its gonna take time but the biggest thing is to push through. Focus and remember form. Form over speed. I like to be like speedy Gonzales and keep up. The fact of the matter is that I cant. I may not ever be able to keep up with the people on the screen but I am doing it. Neal and I are pushing each other and cheering each other on. That's what counts right? Neal is actually going to the gym in the morning with Jerry then doing insanity with me at night. He just might be a tad more insane than I am.
All in all we are getting stronger and I can tell. Its not only the Shakes which are fabulous. We are having to watch what we put in our mouths. My calorie intake is so much more than I am used to however my workouts are way more intense than you can imagine. It really is 60% eating and 40% workouts. I am so looking forward to results and healthier us! We have vacations, weddings, parties etc coming up but with both of us are focused on our results and how far we have came we can do this. I am so excited! Probably as excited about this as I am finishing it. However we are enjoying day by day.
Sorry about my grammar and my spelling . I was not an English major... just remember :) Until next time
~ Liz
http://beachbodycoach.com/esuite/home/Littlebit4969
Thursday, January 10, 2013
Long Over Due....
I have been wanting to write a blog for a little while now. I have been trying to put into words the feelings I have been feeling. However lately its been really hard for me. After my surgery which I can NOT believe will be 2 years in a few months I still had the desire to be a mother. Now don't get me wrong. I still love babies and children. I have a special place for all the children in my life. I just wonder if I am meant to be a mother. They say things happen for a reason in life. I find that to be more true now than I ever believed it before.
Its now physically impossible for me to ever carry a child. I will never know that feeling. We still have the chance to have a biological child. We have prayed and prayed about this over the past year and half. At one point we were ready to start the process of a surrogate. Things were just not falling into place. Nothing seem to go as planned so we have backed off from that. Surrogate is very complicated and to find someone to carry our baby is the hardest part. I am a control freak and I really have to pray long and hard about the person we are asking to carry our baby.
We get told all the time " You're not getting any younger" " You're not spring chicken" " The older you get the harder its going to be" Those statements honestly just piss me off. I may not be getting any younger. DUH That is the cycle of life right? I am not a spring Chicken? Well I am no old cow either HA. I know the older I get it may be harder as in physically? I think not. I believe you are as young as you feel. I am in the best shape of my life. I couldn't feel more better than I feel now. I think the older we are the wiser we will be. I know that there are people our age that cant afford to take their children out, pay for college, clothes and do things that I think we will be able to do being "well seasoned parents" Not saying that I wouldn't have LOVED to be a young parent like my parents were. HOWEVER I want to be able to give my kids a chance to do things in life that they might not have had if we would have had a baby when we were younger. Now don't go and get all huffy and puffy about me judging anyone for having kids at a young age. I am simply saying things happen for a reason.
Over the past 6 months Neal and I have had to have some heart to hearts about being parents. We hear all the time " you two will make great parents" "Our kids just love you two" You two are the best aunt and uncle that our kids can have" We LOVE hearing that. There is nothing sweeter than having my sister, family and friends tell us how much their children love us and that they trust us! We have asked our self " Do we want to bring a child into this world?" " Do we want to actually have the responsibilities of being parents" "Do we want children?" Now I know its hard for some of you to imagine me saying those or questioning being a parent. If you think about it someone that has been through what I have and or what Neal and I have been would you blame us? Look at the events that are happening in the world. What are we bringing our children into? I do not live in fear. I just know that there are certain things in life that I know that I can control. Bringing a child into this world and something happening I can not control. Its all in Gods hands I do realize that. N eal and I have a comfortable life. We come and go as we please and we enjoy it. Now if we had a child or children we would adjust to that as well. I just think that for now we are content to where we are. I still am young and we still have a whole future in front of us. Do I think we are being selfish? NO . Do I think that if we were to ask someone to carry our baby for us and bring a child into this world and be unsure that's what we even want now is selfish yes! So many people out there just want children or a child just to have one. Not for the fact that its a blessing and that God picked them to love for that child and unconditionally LOVE that child. I think its selfish for people to have kids to just so their only child wont be alone. That's what cousins, brothers and sisters, friends kids are for. I think that's selfish. I think its irresponsible to have children just "because" that's what society tells you. We should STOP living for what society tells us is right and start doing what is morally right in your mind. If its faith that gets you where you are in life then LIVE IT.
In my crazy life when I have made the choice to do something I always prayed for peace. That God show me a sign and or make things work out the way that God wanted them to because in the end I want His will to be done. All the big decisions in life have worked out. I believe that God wanted them to. I also am a firm believer that if its NOT in Gods will then it will happen on His timing not mine. For us being parents its just not our timing. I am not to say when the time or if the time will ever come. I am just tired of wondering the what ifs. I worried so much during all the times of the fertility battle. I made a vow to myself to live life. Live it to the fullest and be happy! In the end I don't want to look back at everything I missed because I couldn't live life. Life is literally to short.
A month ago 26 lives were taken and those kids and adults will never see tomorrow. They didn't have the choice but still they don't get it. A close friend of mine father passed away at 61 years old. He wont ever get to see his grandson grow up, graduate high school or get married. Another friend of mine son passes away just this morning at the age of 16. Randy will never see his son Ryan graduated high school, attend college, proms, weddings or have grandchild because God called Ryan home so young. These are events that I will never know why? I will never know why God knew these things were going to happen yet they still occurred? Why are there evil people in this world? Why does the devil seem to keep taking away young precious lives? Those questions only God knows the answers. Those are also reason why I will keep praying and asking God to give me that peace. Asking God to let me know if bringing a child into this world is just a selfish want and not what God planned?
I know this blog is kind of spastic. That's just a bunch of stuff going through my mind. I will try to blog more as this year is going to be busy and full of fun events!
With love
~Lizzy
Its now physically impossible for me to ever carry a child. I will never know that feeling. We still have the chance to have a biological child. We have prayed and prayed about this over the past year and half. At one point we were ready to start the process of a surrogate. Things were just not falling into place. Nothing seem to go as planned so we have backed off from that. Surrogate is very complicated and to find someone to carry our baby is the hardest part. I am a control freak and I really have to pray long and hard about the person we are asking to carry our baby.
We get told all the time " You're not getting any younger" " You're not spring chicken" " The older you get the harder its going to be" Those statements honestly just piss me off. I may not be getting any younger. DUH That is the cycle of life right? I am not a spring Chicken? Well I am no old cow either HA. I know the older I get it may be harder as in physically? I think not. I believe you are as young as you feel. I am in the best shape of my life. I couldn't feel more better than I feel now. I think the older we are the wiser we will be. I know that there are people our age that cant afford to take their children out, pay for college, clothes and do things that I think we will be able to do being "well seasoned parents" Not saying that I wouldn't have LOVED to be a young parent like my parents were. HOWEVER I want to be able to give my kids a chance to do things in life that they might not have had if we would have had a baby when we were younger. Now don't go and get all huffy and puffy about me judging anyone for having kids at a young age. I am simply saying things happen for a reason.
Over the past 6 months Neal and I have had to have some heart to hearts about being parents. We hear all the time " you two will make great parents" "Our kids just love you two" You two are the best aunt and uncle that our kids can have" We LOVE hearing that. There is nothing sweeter than having my sister, family and friends tell us how much their children love us and that they trust us! We have asked our self " Do we want to bring a child into this world?" " Do we want to actually have the responsibilities of being parents" "Do we want children?" Now I know its hard for some of you to imagine me saying those or questioning being a parent. If you think about it someone that has been through what I have and or what Neal and I have been would you blame us? Look at the events that are happening in the world. What are we bringing our children into? I do not live in fear. I just know that there are certain things in life that I know that I can control. Bringing a child into this world and something happening I can not control. Its all in Gods hands I do realize that. N eal and I have a comfortable life. We come and go as we please and we enjoy it. Now if we had a child or children we would adjust to that as well. I just think that for now we are content to where we are. I still am young and we still have a whole future in front of us. Do I think we are being selfish? NO . Do I think that if we were to ask someone to carry our baby for us and bring a child into this world and be unsure that's what we even want now is selfish yes! So many people out there just want children or a child just to have one. Not for the fact that its a blessing and that God picked them to love for that child and unconditionally LOVE that child. I think its selfish for people to have kids to just so their only child wont be alone. That's what cousins, brothers and sisters, friends kids are for. I think that's selfish. I think its irresponsible to have children just "because" that's what society tells you. We should STOP living for what society tells us is right and start doing what is morally right in your mind. If its faith that gets you where you are in life then LIVE IT.
In my crazy life when I have made the choice to do something I always prayed for peace. That God show me a sign and or make things work out the way that God wanted them to because in the end I want His will to be done. All the big decisions in life have worked out. I believe that God wanted them to. I also am a firm believer that if its NOT in Gods will then it will happen on His timing not mine. For us being parents its just not our timing. I am not to say when the time or if the time will ever come. I am just tired of wondering the what ifs. I worried so much during all the times of the fertility battle. I made a vow to myself to live life. Live it to the fullest and be happy! In the end I don't want to look back at everything I missed because I couldn't live life. Life is literally to short.
A month ago 26 lives were taken and those kids and adults will never see tomorrow. They didn't have the choice but still they don't get it. A close friend of mine father passed away at 61 years old. He wont ever get to see his grandson grow up, graduate high school or get married. Another friend of mine son passes away just this morning at the age of 16. Randy will never see his son Ryan graduated high school, attend college, proms, weddings or have grandchild because God called Ryan home so young. These are events that I will never know why? I will never know why God knew these things were going to happen yet they still occurred? Why are there evil people in this world? Why does the devil seem to keep taking away young precious lives? Those questions only God knows the answers. Those are also reason why I will keep praying and asking God to give me that peace. Asking God to let me know if bringing a child into this world is just a selfish want and not what God planned?
I know this blog is kind of spastic. That's just a bunch of stuff going through my mind. I will try to blog more as this year is going to be busy and full of fun events!
With love
~Lizzy
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