My opinions...

Over the past few weeks I've read several blogs about life, friendships, marriages etc... Some made me laugh and some made me tear up. That's the point of blogs right? For our own opinions and thoughts right? I am not here to judge anyone in their opinions but with reading several I needed to give my opinion on several things. I am not here to offend anyone these are just my thoughts an opinions.

Friendships~

This may open up a can of worms. Over the past few years I have lost several people that I considered my true friends. Over lack of communication, jealousy, false accusations etc. I mean really we are grown ups right? If there are issues with your friends why not talk about it? If you are a true friend you will discuss things. Not face book or be a coward and text. I came to the realization that those people that made it so easy to stop being my friend really were never my true friends. I recently was confronted about something that I would never had imagined a best friend would have considered but she did. This person ended up being one of the most insecure, selfish, jealous persons that I have ever met. She not only looked like a fool in the end but really showed me her true colors. To be honest I do not have time for that mess! I need people in my life that are going to support me and cheer me on. Support me and my ocd and weird way of doing things. People that are going to be true friends. I no longer NEED or WANT fake people in my life. PERIOD

Kids vs not having kids~

Ok ladies here it goes. STOP and think about it before you say " she just doesn't understand because she doesn't have kids" Lets see... DUH Big red truck. I don't have kids but that is of no choice of my own. Do I get to do things that my friends with kids can't. Sure but that doesn't mean that I don't know what its like. I would love to know what its like to get up in the middle of the night with kids, to have to clean up throw up , to not take a shower for days from being so busy. That being said does that give you the right to throw that in peoples face? NO... Get organized, ask for help, take us non children people up when they want to help you with your kids or your house. Its not hand outs its called being a friend and wanting to help out. No one MADE you have child. Its your choice. If you want to go out get a sitter, save money and pay one or ask friends or grandparents. Have an adult night and get out. Ok you don't have the money then put your child to bed early pop in a movie and just sit and watch one. The dishes and laundry can wait. Some people just assume that those of us without kids are clueless... well I have news for you I am the most open minded person and considerate person when it comes to my friends kids and wanting to always include them. I always take their financial situation in consideration before asking them to do things. If I know its been a tight week for them I usually offer to have game night and make dinner at my house. So again before people start running their trap about non-moms think before you speak. Or better yet maybe you should reconsider your friendships.

Life~

This is such a huge topic and probably do not have enough time to write about it. I just want to say a few things. One its YOUR life. You make it what it is. Does life suck sometimes? hell yeah it does. Trust me I have had the worst hand dealt to me in certain areas of my life. We have NO control over whats going to happen, but we have a choice in how you will react. Life does not have to be so bad people. Sometimes I want to scream. I want to yell and ask God WHY!! Its not for me to know. I am a control freak and I want to make sure I can control whatever I can, but I also know the God has this. That I just need to relax and realize He is the master and I just have to have faith. Stop trying to control everyone and everything. It is what it is. Life goes on rather we want it to or not. Why not make the most of it. Love hard , work hard and play harder. Remember you only get one life here on earth. I pray that when I look back I have made the most of life.

Marriage~

Lets be real people.... marriage is not all hearts and flowers. Its not always a fairy tale. Just like anything in life it takes trust, communication, love, loyalty, hard work, prayer, understanding, love and sometimes a good argument every now and then. Wait that just be Neal and I lol. I am serious people just like any relationship you have to work at it. After almost 14 years together and going on10 years of marriage I still have not and will not ever master marriage. Its had its ups and downs but we pray a lot and ask God to help us. Help us love more and think of each other more than our own self. One thing in our marriage that we are proud of is we laugh. We make each other laugh, pick and kid with each other. We do not get along all the time. A marriage that appears to be so perfect ... well lets just say " we do not know what happens behind closed doors" One thing is talk... do not hold it in. If something bothers you discuss it. You get absolutely no where with staying quite. That being said sometimes it is better to not say anything without thinking first. Neither a wife or a husband needs to be a door mat. That causes nothing but resentment. I could go on and on!!

Ok those are just a few of MY opinions... hope I do not step on any toes and remember its your life.. do what you want as long as your happy... AND remember you only answer to God and yourself...

with love

~E