Its been a while... Updates

Well its been a while since I have wrote anything on my blog. Honestly I have been trying to figure out everything to write because I have so many prayer warriors and people that were concerned. So let me go back to the beginning of April when I met with my new Oncologist Dr. Rolland Barrett . I just have to put a little nugget in here that he is a fabulous doctor he and his staff are wonderful.


I met with Dr. Barrett and his staff regarding what to do and how to do it. We decided to have robotic partial hysterectomy. There were other options such as chemo and or radiation pills etc... and to be honest I just wanted the cancer out. Yes it was stage 1 and lowest stage you could have but lets be realistic here... how many times does cancer come back in the uterus area if you do radiation or freezing? It comes back in about 85% of all patients and I didn't want that. Neal and I had already been through it all from stage 1 of fertility issues to IVF. I was ready to be DONE I believe we were both ready as a matter of face. So with that being said we scheduled the surgery for April 26th.





After getting everything cleared with work , insurance, time off and making arrangements for my mom to be here to help me I was a little more at peace. I will say in the back of my mind I was a little scared that we were not doing the right thing. I was honestly on the fence but I knew it was the devil. I kept praying and asking God to give me peace that we were doing what we needed to do. Cause in the end I need to and want to be here on earth. There was and is a purpose for me here.





The day before my surgery was horrible I was on a liquid diet and had to take muralx it wasn't that bad but made me hate Gatorade even more lol. I pretty much stayed home all day and prayed and well fasted to be honest just meditating on me , God , Neal and our health and our future.





The next morning we had to be at the hospital at 6am. We got there a few minutes late . I then filled out paper work and was called back. I was a little nervous and hungry was an understatement. I literally lost 6 lbs from Sunday to Tuesday morning. I think it was the fast lol So I was starving all I could think about was eating. My mother and Neal took me to the hospital and was there with me the entire time. My pastor Terry was there the entire time as well. He came in and prayed over me and my doctor and the whole process! It was a very peaceful morning after that. I had no fear or worries and I thank God for giving me that peace.

From what I was told the surgery took about 2.5-3 hours and most of that was positioning. If your not familiar with how I had to lay you are more than welcome to research that but basically I was standing on my head lol.

So after words in recovery I work up and THANK GOD i felt no pain. I just remember being really puffy and bloated from the co2 that they used to in large my tummy to gain access to the uterus. I had to stay in recovery for an hour or so before they moved into my room. I am not really sure what I said or did but I remember my sister, mom, Neal pastor terry, jennifer and I believe that was it was there. I do remember my friend Tammie, Jamie, aunt jj, bammaw, father in law , grandmaw younts and my father coming to visit even if I don't remember everything I do remember who was there. It was so NICE to have everyone come visit, call , facebook and text. I will say I felt the best that I felt in a long time maybe it was the drugs ...

That evening Dr Barrett came and visited and said the surgery went really well and the rest of my results will come back in the next few days and he said just to rest and I could go home in the morning as long as everything checked out by then. So that evening my friend HERA( Heather) made me the most AMAZING meal ever! I was so spoiled I had a huge fillet, potatoes, i believe a green of some sort, crab dip and chips and creme brulee(sp?)!!! It was as amazing as it sounded! YUM Thanks my sweet heather!

So that night was a tad bit interesting. Neal couldn't sleep well at all on the plastic bed lol... And well I had these things on my legs to where I couldn't move at all good and they were there for me not to have blood clots... as soon as I could walk they could come off and that was around 1230am!! Then finally around 530am the catheter was out and I basically was ready to leave! But had to wait for Dr. Rollands rounds. I only needed pain medication around 1230 and 3am so that was good. I literally didn't feel ton of pain only at spots where the incisions were. If you are not familiar with the procedure I have four small incisions where the tools were put in for the surgery and I could really twice or move up and down well I just had to remember to go slow.

So around 9am mom came and picked me up Neal had to go to work. We stopped by Sheets washed the car got a yummy drink and went home and I believe I slept most of the day.

Mom was FABULOUS she did all the cooking, cleaning and laundry I didn't have to do anything. I was on pain meds but did not have to take as much as was expected. I honestly felt that I could get up and do stuff. I believe I even tried lol. Mom left around 9 days out and I was SO sad cause I was moody and not the best person to be around but mother loves me no matter what. I also missed my laundry and house being done cause we all know mothers are the best cleaners. Love you momma! Neal & Alietha took over her duties when she left. Thanks Alietha for all your help, running around , cooking and helping love ya sis!

That's all about the surgery and afterwards in a nut shell. I will be honest I have had my moments where I am really sad and depressed but then I think "WHY" God saved my life by this coming up. No one wants the " C" word. I mean really I am 29 who would have thought? However to me you need to make the best of your life no matter what is going on. I love God and thank Him daily for the blessings he has given me. I am not sure why I got it and had to go this road but that's not for me to know. I just have to keep my head strong and know that God has bigger plans for me and that I may not know the future God already knows it.

I am so at peace with life and the "issues" that I have had. I still love being around babies and kids. I am not bitter as I felt that I would be. I am not jealous over others that are pregnant and or want to be and can be because I have said that I am a child of God and he has not forgotten me.

I have been asked the question " What next" Well here it goes. Neal and I want to be parents with every part of our hearts. We know we now have unlimited options and more than we did before. Besides having a baby biologically I know that we can and will be parents regardless of if I can give birth or not. So here are our options. 1) Surrogacy 2) Adoption. We have prayed and ask God to direct us on which way to go. Right now the cancer, surgery and just getting out lives back to a normal(lol) routine is something we are working on. We are working on each other and our relationship. We are focusing on our business and getting things going for the future. We also would like to eventually build or buy a house. Now that IVF is out of the question for us we are trying to figure out what and which direction to go in. Neal wants our options as having a surrogate and I want to look into adoptions so there for its up in there air. Whatever we decide with God will be the right choice for us. Until then we will enjoy our nieces and nephew and all our other friends kids and most important we will enjoy each other.

To all that read this and have supported and prayed for us and "our little blessing" please keep praying and believing that it will happen cause I have NO DOUBT that it will.

We love you all and Thank you will never be enough...

Love Neal & Elizabeth